3 Ways to Know You Are in a Spiritually Mature Relationship

One way of looking at spiritually evolved partnerships is to know immediately that it surpasses egoic needs and/or conversations that focus on the negative or dramatic aspects of life. These types of relationships are not bad, however they are not signs that you are in a spiritually evolved one.

The focus in these intentional relationships lives in the higher mind and the key question to ask is “how can I serve for the highest and best of all?” It looks like being the witness and constantly lifting one another up by mirroring back higher mind.

Imagine yourself in the back seat of your car watching yourself drive. This is what it means to be the witness. You are watching yourself go through your day to day, emotions and all, without allowing yourself to be consumed by what is going on around and inside of you. Being in higher mind means you have to be in a place where you are willing to be exceptionally vulnerable, open, intimate, and honest with one another.

1. It is not based on romance or sex

Most of the time when we connect with another we immediately are focused on the attraction and what the other person can do to fulfill our desires. We create a fantasy idea of how we want the other person to be for us emotionally, romantically, and sexually. This makes us human and does not make us wrong! However, if you are striving for a spiritually evolved relationship, this is an example of not being in our higher mind; this is living more in our ego.  When living in our higher mind we will think more like “How can I serve for the highest and best of all?” Always putting divine order before lustful desires.

2. We are focused on evolving personally and spiritually

When entering into an evolved relatedness with someone it is best to ask yourself “How can I become a better person for myself and others?” There will be more of a focus on the relationship with yourself and divine service first. You will be more authentic, vulnerable, open, honest, transparent, and have a deeper intimacy in this way with no boundaries to one another’s growth. You will be assisting your partner by being a mirror on an evolutionary journey together. Watching them grow and serve in their own unique way while also doing the same for yourself is ideal. You truly become egoless in this manner of relating with another.

You will know when you have reached this point when you both allow each other to grow independently, with confidence, meaning you let the drama go; in this new light you will both find yourselves shedding old patterns and old dramas. It will feel uncomfortable at first because it is new, but that’s how you know you are doing the work!

3. We recognize we have egos and we are not perfect

The idea here is that both partners would recognize that they are merely human and will makes errors. Allowing one another to make those errors without judgment or taking things personal is key. It is about holding ourselves and each other accountable for coming back to our higher mind. The only way this is possible is if both parties want this and have agreed to assist one another in this process. It will take commitment, trust and accountability.

We will not meet in our limitations, fears or doubts. We will not focus on how we are failing to show up, or be complaining to one another all the time about what isn’t working for him or her. It isn’t about boasting, comparing, or belittling one another, or focusing on the negatives with a ‘what can you do for me?’ attitude. Relating in this way is to be avoided completely. This deep intimate relationship will push you out of the norm and encourage you to be the best version of you for the betterment of yourself and everyone you will serve in your life.

In conclusion, the idea here is to be the witness for one another. Continuously aim to stay in higher mind. Be the witness to how we are interacting in our worlds. Constantly strive for growth. Take responsibility, and be accountable for all actions and look to evolve in every way possible. This is a mature and spiritually evolved relationship, one that will keep you asking, “How can I serve for the highest and best of all?”

 

Maintaining Health and Wellness Through Dance

We are vibrational beings and our frequency, whether high or low, determines our overall health and well being. We are walking electromagnetic fields that attract the same frequency to us, from people to health. We are constantly sending out vibrational waves of emotions which create our reality. Most of the time we are bombarded with a consistent undertone of low frequencies which cause a lot of us unnecessary stress, worry, fear and guilt. As vibrational beings we can maintain high frequency through dance.

It follows that, when we are feeling good we are riding on a high frequency which will continually attract more of the same. This frequency attracts all the joy, love and happiness, and furthermore, creates an age reversal effect by reducing stress. Stress ages us and creates illness over en extended period of time.

Vibration is defined as sound. Our moods, thoughts, and words all create a resonance that attract our high or low frequencies. When thoughts of guilt, worry, and fear creep in it is a fact that we will create and perceive all of those negative situations and emotions until we can change the frequency to that of a higher one. We are electromagnetic and have the capacity to bring forth to us whatever we want or desire. We do this by controlling the feelings that come from our thoughts.

Dance improves overall brain function, which directly improves our moods and thoughts. It stimulates us, reducing stress and turning on our feel good hormone, serotonin. Dance creates a clear mental state through a trance like process that can transcend pain and stress. It encourages physical balance, cognitive skills, visual recognition, decision making and strengthens long term memory functions. To retain these positive high frequency benefits, research suggests practicing dance once a week.

In conclusion, through dance we have the power to explore and express our emotions in a healthy way. This allows us to shift our realities and well being for the better. As vibrational beings, dance is a way of keeping us in a higher frequency of love, joy and happiness. Through dance we are magnetizing that higher frequency back into our lives and inviting all the goodness that comes along with it.

Starting Over

April 2014 I decided to move back to California, this time I had a plan. I am going to stop right there and say that if you do not have a back up plan for your plan you could be in for a messy ride. I basically went from thriving somewhat back in New England to down right falling on my butt on the central coast of Cali. I would say that this was my rock bottom. I made a choice to move to pursue my hair career differently and my plans fell apart. I pretty much said well, while you are in California you might as well try L.A, seeing as it is my dream and all.

I began working at another salon in an area I wanted to settle in. I was happy for the first few months, then slowly more drama, more clickiness, more employees depressed and unhappy and all of a sudden my inner truth started pouring out. I was not happy and was in a unhappy working environment and it was draining the life out of me. I also began to recognize that this has happened at each salon I have worked at with the exception of a couple. I realized it was time.

I decided to leave the salon world and go back to school for an Associates Degree in Mind Body Transformational Psychology, this was in September 2015. I wanted to go into this about 10 years ago and for some reason I just wasn’t ready for it. Maybe it was because I was afraid to see my truth, or I didn’t have enough experience to coach others. All that tie gone by and I would be lying if I didn’t say that after starting over so many times in the hair industry I am really tired and a little frustrated.

Here I am starting over again in L.A working hard to make my dreams real. I am dedicated to getting this degree and I have focus to change my career path. Along this next year and a half I will have gained many certifications, diploma and a degree which means I will be utilizing these tools as a part of my services as I go along.

I have graduated from my Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy classes. The first 6 months of schooling was all of that plus some comparative religion, Prayer therapy, and universal law classes all of which I am so fascinated with and look forward to coaching others towards their own personal transformation.

Yes I am still working in a salon its just very part time. I am pondering a lot of possibilities right now, especially with my newly acquired skills. The choice to go back to school has been the best thing for my own personal growth. I am not so sure why I was scared to take a look at myself, there was nothing bad to see, all I see is untapped and unlimited potential just waiting to be released. I am strong, confident and talented. I have many skills to offer to help you find your inner graces, as I have found mine through a lot of these same tools.

I have found my purpose through these last 6 months of school and after many years of serving the public I have found that I am the,

 “Cultivator of internal magnificence.”

I want to take on Life Coaching and hypnotherapy as my new career. I have come a long way in the last 6 months, and I can only imagine what else is possible? I can take clients near and far! The beauty of this new career path is that i can travel and it will not affect my business, if anything I will continue to grow and expand as I reach new heights in my new path.

I am all about having a lifestyle that works for me and not letting work be my lifestyle and this is what I am going after. Naturally I want to be your guide through your own transformations.

How many times does it take a young child to take their first steps? How many times do they fall and get up? Did they ever give up despite all the strive, struggle and sometimes pain? NO!

That being said I am not giving up, I am putting hair to the side for now and am perfecting my niche so I can promote what I have to offer the world properly and with the right intention. I am going to bring back intimacy, connection and community through personal growth.

It really goes back to connection. How we are connecting with each other in the world is how we interact with ourselves. Lately we have all been face down in technology…. Yes it has its purpose, but it also has its time and place. TIME TO FACE UP PEOPLE!! Face up to who you are and where you are headed and get real with yourself.

It took me 10 years to get real with myself and I look at this as another chance to go after what my deepest desire was 10 years ago. That is to help those who are feeling lost to gain direction and a sense of purpose. I am ready to take on this new role… Be on the look out for new social media content from me….

When one door closes, many open….

All my love,

Tika